How can we be there for one another? How can we give space and time for one another?
By showing up.
Just show up.
You don’t have to do anything, orchestrate or plan anything. Trust in the experience and let whatever happens happen. Let the feelings arise, let the words come, or listen to the silence between you. Sometimes the silence speaks mountains of love.
Embrace all of it with patience and tolerance for what is. Accept your powerlessness over the one you love, the feelings you have, she has. Accept it all and just let it go, let it be.
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be. (Thank you, Paul.)
The Guest House This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. --Jalal al-Din Rumi Translated by Coleman Barks