When I arrived at our weekly meeting place, the parking lot was full. I thought, My goodness, we must have a lot of newcomers! And then I saw my fellow members chatting outside their cars. We’d been bumped from our room with no notice by a paying customer.
Being resourceful, we decided to hold our meeting at a nearby lakeside park (not the one pictured above; that’s Lake Moraine in Banff National Park, one of our vacation sites). There were several gazebos with picnic tables to choose from. I wanted to sit under the first gazebo I saw sheltering six picnic tables in deep shade. It was a hot, sunny morning, plus I wasn’t wearing sunscreen. I figured no strangers would join us if we occupied one of the tables.
But a member behind me said, “Let’s use the gazebo where there’s just one table. That way no one will disturb us.”
The gazebo I saw held two tables and was right next to the playground where screaming children played. I was about to protest when I saw the one she was talking about. My fellow members picked up the table and moved as much as they could into the shade.
How selfish I’d been, thinking of my own desires
During the meeting, I reflected silently how sure I’d been about what was right for the group. My selfish desires prevented me from seeing better options, not only for us, but for other parties as well, like those that might need the tables under the larger gazebo.
I realized that no matter how certain I am about something, other options exist. I need to question my certainty and be open to different possibilities, especially when others are concerned. An even better solution might be available as was the case in this situation.
I’m glad I didn’t object out loud and instead went with the flow. We had a lovely meeting, completely undisturbed and with plenty of privacy. I had my shade, as did we all, eventually, as the sun moved overhead. Plus, we had a lovely view of the lake and flock of ducks napping close by.
I hope I’ll remember to always question my certainty when my desire for what I want could affect others. Listen. Be open to options you may not see while in the throes of what you crave for yourself.