A Minor, Unaccompanied: a memoir

This award-winning,* coming-of-age memoir examines the pain of self-betrayal and the triumph of self-discovery. It’s the story of my tumultuous teens set in the Chicago suburbs during the sexual revolution of the late 1960s/early ’70s. As a fourteen-year-old looking for love in all the wrong places, I have two affairs with men in their mid-twenties over a period of two years, only to become disillusioned by the peace and love they profess. Winding up homeless at age sixteen in San Francisco, and trafficked by someone I thought was a friend, I come face-to-face with this question: How could I have abandoned myself so thoroughly?

Through it all, playing flute eases my soul. Whether improvising melodies in my darkened bedroom, commune farmyard or stone-tiled apartment vestibule with great reverberation, music reveals there is goodness yet within me.

Returning home, only to be abandoned by my mother who moves out East, I stay behind and finish high school, determined to become a professional flutist. At age eighteen I meet Joyce, a mother of six. Her unconditional love and mentorship, combined with my newfound dedication to classical music training, help me to regain a sense of self-worth. I finally learn what it means to take a stand for oneself, to create personal boundaries, to say no to others, and yes to me.

A Minor, Unaccompanied will appeal to readers appalled by the under-age grooming in Alisson Wood’s Being Lolita (2020) and uplifted by the healing effects of music and triumph of spirit in Richard Antoine White’s I’m Possible: a story of survival, a tuba, and the small miracle of a big dream (2021).

*2022 Coming-of-Age Memoir Magazine Prize for Books

Partial or full manuscript available to literary agents upon request.

Bio

As a freelance writer, former magazine editor, and current producer of syndicated radio programs Radio Health Journal and Viewpoints, I have over 700 by-lines. My work is in Newsweek,  The Sun and numerous literary journals, including excerpts of my memoir. I was also a 2023 Doris Betts Fiction Prize finalist. I live in Asheville, North Carolina, with my husband of forty-plus years, and two black dogs often mistaken for small black bears on leashes. To contact me click here, or see the contact tab in the menu.

About This Blog

Self-love hasn’t come easy for me. What I felt for years was self-hatred; hatred for the pain I felt, the shame I experienced, the things I’d said and done, or the things that were said and done to me. But that feeling, that attitude thankfully changed. How? By embracing the pain, embracing the shame, the fear, by looking at each and all those painful feelings deep within myself, and not flinching. Easily said. Hard to do.

I will share a bit of how I came to believe in myself, and the things that helped me, things like readings, spiritual exercises, people, and so on, plus some of the struggles and setbacks I’ve had on the journey to self-love. But one thing I’ve never done is give up. I never gave up on myself. A solid nugget deep inside me was good, though buried and hidden. I wanted to find it and believe in it. And I did. You can, too. Just have faith that it is there. Have faith that you will find it.

“But one thing I’ve never done is give up. I never gave up on myself. “

And a word of note.

This is definitely and foremost a spiritual blog. It is not my intention to proselytize any particular denomination or religion. My feeling is that they all have something to offer. And to be completely transparent, as of this writing I don’t belong to, or attend any kind of house of worship other than my own meditation corner of my bedroom, and the moment by moment walks in this life with the God of my understanding and my spiritual guides.

And with that said — welcome!